She's having a really tough time right now. See, she likes this boy.
Let me back up.
Once upon a time...
Well my friend has been best friends with this girl for a year.

Her best friend dated this guy for a minute. It didn't really work out, but her best friend is still really attracted to him and still kind of has a thing for him.

Fast forward a few months.
My friend's best friend still kinda likes this guy. But she's done some dating since her thing with the guy in question, and she currently 1) kind of has a boyfriend thing, 2) has a missionary that just got home and 3) has a missionary still out serving. The girl has enough on her plate, man-wise.

So, my friend, the main character of this story, just got home from a summer internship on the East Coast. She hasn't kissed a boy since August and she is going nuts, being as it is currently November. My friend had a very action-packed summer and on average kissed two different boys goodnight every night.
She is dying for action.

My friend is an actress, studying theatre. Her close friend Alex is taking a directing class, and he needed an actor and an actress to star in a short romantic scene for a directing project of his. The catch, however, is that the scene included a fairly romantic and semi-passionate stage kiss. My friend gladly volunteered, as did her best friend's ex.
Well they ended up kissing. In the scene, of course. And it was fantastic. At least, that's what she told me.

The two of them worked together on this scene with Alex for a few days, slowly starting to get to know each other, slowly becoming friends, flirting, and even hanging out a little bit.
So my friend texts her best friend to see if it was cool with her if she had a ncmo-- a non-commital-make-out-- with the guy. And her friend said it was okay... but there was an underlying awkward feeling lurking about the text messages.

My friend also mentioned to her best friend that she wasn't sure if the boy was her type and that she was still kind of heartbroken after her last boyfriend situation. My friend assured her BFF that she was definitely not ready for a boyfriend right at that moment. Regardless, my friend continued on flirting and talking to the boy.

As time goes on, however, my friend begins to notice what an incredible person this guy is. He sings, he acts, he plays guitar, he's an eagle scout, a return missionary, speaks fluent spanish... completed the bronze, silver and gold venturing scout programs, and on top of all else, he is HILARIOUS. This boy can make my friend laugh for hours on end. They are always entertained by each other. She feels like she's known him for a much longer time than she really has. And what else is so great about him is this: he's not perfect, nor does he try to put on the facade and pretend to be. He doesn't shove his religion down the throats of everyone around him. OH- and he's handsome. Very, very handsome. I would know, I've seen him.

So things are looking like they're going to be pretty awesome until she realizes, Oh shit. Best friend is going to KILL me.
See, in the past, her best friend has informed her that all of her ex-best friends were indeed her ex-best friends because they were always out to steal her man. And my friend is afraid she'll think she's doing just that.

So that's my dilemma-- er, HER dilemma...
My friend left her East Coast internship early because of a priesthood blessing she'd received from one of her few LDS friends back east. She knew that Florida wasn't the right place for her because she wasn't surrounding herself with good people. She knew that she needed to get back to a place where she could be safe for a while whilst she figured herself out. She knew there was a bigger reason that she moved back to Utah. She says she hasn't found it yet.
After discussing a few church matters with him, a lot of things make sense. Maybe this boy is just what she needs. Maybe he was put into her life to gently nudge her back onto the right path. Who knows? But I don't blame her for not wanting to let this opportunity pass her by.
She really likes him and he likes her too. And she told me that they kissed last night, and it wasn't like, a stage kiss like it was before... And it was nice. After they kissed he pulled away and said, "I feel like I've kissed you before."
They've put it on ice until they can figure out how to handle the Best friend situation.
As I'm sure you all guessed, my friend is really me. And I feel like I'm screwed. And I'm ready to hit someone. Does anyone have any suggestions?

**CORRECTION: Apparently Best friend and guy never technically "dated," held hands and he isn't technically her "ex." just clarifying. Sorry if any of the above information is incorrect. :P

well technically the silver medallion is the highest of the three... and apparently i'm not the only one to have earned them all haha
ReplyDeleteShe's not that good of a friend if she will make you her ex-best friend for liking a boy who isn't her's anymore. If that makes sense haha...so I say GO FOR IT!!!!
ReplyDeletePS I really liked your illustrations. They made me happy. :D
I think that if you spent as much time on your studies as you spend on your blogging, you would graduate on time! But I love you. And your illustrations are awesome!
ReplyDeleteHow did I know you were going to say that, mom
ReplyDeleteDo you find yourself attracted to him because he is a good kisser or a good person? It seems to me that you are searching and searching for someone to "complete you" - that is a dangerous path to walk. You do not need a man / boy to complete you - you both must be complete to enhance each other. Know who you are and be authentic and the rest will fall into place in God's time. I love you, Alexa
ReplyDelete***CORRECTION best friend and guy only made out a couple of times in a NCMO circumstance. I personally cornered this best friend of yours and she says that you should date him cause that would make her really happy
ReplyDeletePancho work on school and go to church and the rest will come. You are trying to hard if he is the right one then the friend does not matter.Let things happen natural and not by force. LOL Cisco
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